Over the past week, I’ve had a couple of different opportunities to discuss modesty and appropriate behavior with Abby. Last weekend, she attended a dance where a girl was dancing very, very inappropriately. I wasn’t the only one who noticed. When all the teenaged guys in the room stop dancing and circle around to gape at you. . . that’s NOT a good sign! In fact, the only person in the room who wasn’t gawking at this spectacle was the girl’s mother, who seemed (predictably) oblivious to how her daughter was behaving. Abby and her friends tell me this girl is only thirteen years old! At the rate she’s going, she’s going to be pregnant before she gets out of high school.
The next thing that blipped on my radar was the way one of our own homeschool girls was dressed. She was wearing very short shorts. At Mass. She is a very cute little girl, with a very cute figure. But church is not the place for that. Actually, outside of a strip club, I’m having a hard time thinking of a good place for wearing shorts that are that short.
So, as Abby and I were driving home the other evening, I thought I should take the time to thank her for being, well, her. I told her that I am so grateful that she has never been one to push the modesty envelope, and how proud I am of her for always being appropriate in her dress and behavior.
She paused, thoughtfully, and then replied “I think it’s because I have so many close friends who are male, and I respect them.”
At first, it didn’t completely sink in. But the more I thought about what she said, the more I thought about how wonderful it was! She respects not only herself, but also her male friends! And, because of that, she doesn’t want to do anything that would cause scandal to herself or to them. Like dancing or dressing in a manner that might cause them to have impure thoughts or tempt them in any way.
I am ever amazed at this young lady who calls me Mom. I think I have to give big credit to her Dad and brothers on this one. They all just adore her, and are very open with her about the things they think and feel. It has clearly taught her to respect and honor not only herself, but the young men around her.